Hello Beauties! Welcome to the last week of the year. I’m hoping you had a joyful Christmas and life is starting to get back to it’s normal rhythm. I want to talk to you today about how to get the biggest value out of this final week of the year. Traditionally, you spend it stuck in either the past or the future.
The societal habit is to look back over the year in retrospect and sift thru what worked and what didn’t. From that set of data, you are encouraged to make character judgments about yourself for not following thru AND worst of all, you then recycle them into the “goals” for next year. You can look back over the past 5 to 10 years and prove to yourself that formula does not work. It does not lead to better execution. So, I want to offer some different truths to you today so that you have a different outcome for 2017.
My first offering as absolute truth is:
Your brain is listening to everything you tell yourself
and believes it is true simply because you speak it.
I’ve been talking to you on Mondays about using your voice and this is a perfect example. You want to use your voice to speak what is absolutely true for you.
Looking backwards at the year is human. But getting stuck in that past is dangerous. A healthy introspection of 2016, looks like
- focusing on what you claimed for yourself and achieved
- telling yourself the raw honest truth about your commitment to the things you did not achieve
- being deliberate about the things you choose to carry forward into 2017
If weight loss has been your New Year’s resolution for the past TEN years, you may need to Ask A BETTER Question! There are reasons you haven’t achieved that goal yet that having nothing to do with you being a failure. A Better Question might be: What is this weight here to teach me? Spending 2017 seeking those answers might be very very interesting.
My second offering as absolute truth is:
Goals are not the same thing as intentions.
Goals are about the outcome (i.e. losing 20 lbs). If the results don’t happen fast enough, you lose interest and drift away. Intentions are about BEING DIFFERENT every day in order to have a different reality. It is building up your “showing up for yourself” muscles everyday so that the solution you’ve been reaching for is practically guaranteed.
Part of you will use your voice this week to pontificate about resolutions for the New Year. Like diets, resolutions DO NOT work. They are born out of fear, doubt and emotion. They rarely exist past January and are often used as additional proof that you failed.
What if 2017 is your year? What if it does not have to be a repeat of every other year? It’s been years since dieting was on my list. For the last several years, I have completely opted out of New Year’s resolutions. That felt better but it did not feel good.
This year, New Year’s is almost a fait accompli: a thing that has already happened or been decided before those affected hear about it, leaving them with no option but to accept. Because I have committed to taking Master Level care of myself on a daily basis just because I am a breathing human body on the planet, there is no big new habit to embrace.
It feels like freedom. So what if YOU decided toAsk a BETTER Question? What is this weight here to teach me? How do I love this 200+ lb body? Click To Tweet
What is your weight gain here to teach you? What if it’s the best gift the Universe ever sent you? Want to learn how to Ask A BETTER Question? That’s the skill I teach my 1:1 clients and will be demonstrating in an upcoming webinar. Leave your contact information in the box below to be one of the first invited.
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What if you decided starting to pay attention to you was worth your time and energy today – in December – instead of waiting for January 1st?
You are NOT your weight.
You have NOT waited too long.
Your body is NOT broken.
I love you my Voluptuous Beauties! Mean it!
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