Hello, Beauties! What problem do you want? It’s the question being asked in the latest book I’m reading and it has turned on some light bulbs for me that I want to share today. You’ve heard some version of this before and like most great AHA’s (think Oprah), this time you hear it from a different perspective and get to grow.
What problem do you want?
I’ve actually written an entire module in my program UnPack Your Emotional Baggage about this same idea framed from another direction. The question then was “What Solution Do You Want?”
Consider just the semantics of the words: Solution and Problem.
Most of you might feel curious about a solution but be completely repelled about volunteering for a problem.
But, that’s where this gets juicy. The underlying theme is teaching yourself to make decisions.
No fence sitting.
No staying stuck in indecision.
Either way, you are going to be handed both a solution AND a problem.
Solution: You define what you want and you go after it.
Problem: Deciding FOR something automatically means deciding AGAINST something else.
Fear Of Missing Out keeps you trying to do everything. As a result, you are crazy busy while generally feeling like you aren’t getting anywhere.
Did that one land? Did it make you flinch?
I call that a “crap” moment. I literally say “crap” in a long drawn out syllable because I know it’s time to grow.
So, here’s my question to you:
What problem do you want?
Do you want to feel like a victim of other peoples agendas, never able to relax or have downtime, always saying yes when you mean no, hoping no one discovers your failing?
Do you want to feel the uncomfortable awkwardness of defining your priority (singular) and saying NO to everything else?
If you don’t have an immediate answer, I know, right?
The brilliance of being willing to pick door #2 is the laser focus that lets you release the good things you have now so that you can create space for greatness. Notice, this level of decision making is not when you are in crisis and your back is against the wall. This is when things are good – but not great.
That is the very definition of mid-life crisis. People, both men and women, with good lives feel like there must be more.
There are some prerequisites for signing up for your problem.
First, you need to know how to feel. Allowing awkward, doing it scared is a learned skill that I teach my private clients.
Second, you must be willing to decide. Playing it safe does not serve you. Every decision no matter what the outcome gives you vital information about how to make the NEXT decision. Make enough decisions and your dreams become your reality.
You thought your job was losing weight. WRONG!
Your job is making decisions!
Decisions that leave you head over heels in love with your beautiful body so that it no longer needs the weight you are carrying.
and put “I am my priority!” in the Subject line.
That will connect us and save your spot for your free 30-minute session with me. I’ll show you how learning to genuinely love yourself is the glue to losing weight without deprivation.
I love you my Voluptuous Beauties!