Hello, Beauties! Does Christmas make you a sparkly-eyed kid or a grouchy Grinch? Eavesdrop on yourself today and listen to the tone of your thoughts. If they are darker than you wish them to be, this blog is for you. I invite you to consider learning to turn the tables on your cynical trashcan thoughts.
Turn the Tables on your Cynical Trashcan Thoughts
Let’s start by dissecting that sentence. Cynical. Trashcan. Thoughts. You are accustomed to hearing other words coupled with thoughts. Negative thoughts, positive thoughts, logical thoughts, emotional thoughts. Trashcan thoughts are an interesting mix of all of the above.
There are several ways to identify Trashcan thoughts. First, they are repetitive and distracting. They trap you in procrastination and/or perfection. Thoughts like “I never have enough time.” and “I can’t afford that.” Seems like you are just stating the facts, right?
The second identifier is they seem to have no solution. You can’t manufacture more time or more money. As a result, you feel like a victim in your life instead of feeling confident and powerful.
The most dangerous characteristic is the way they attach to other thoughts and bend them in the negative direction. It’s the beginning of a thought spiral that will have you in a Netflix coma elbow deep in a bag of Doritos.
Add cynicism and you are one step away from being a real live Grinch.
Cynicism is easy to come by this time of year. It happens to me too every year when Christmas decorations go up in stores in early October before Halloween AND Thanksgiving. You’ve likely participated in, or at least overheard, conversations about how the “season” has lost its meaning.
The GOOD NEWS is you are not stuck with those trashcan thoughts. You can give yourself permission to turn the tables on them and find a spirit of gratitude as you move thru your Christmas gatherings.
You start by knowing that thoughts are not facts. And just because you have a thought, you do not have to act on it. Let that sink in. The first time this truth was introduced to me, I remember thinking “Why didn’t anybody ever tell me that before?”
The most effective tool for interrupting your habitual negative thought patterns is to write them on paper – get them OUT of your brain. It’s the same concept as crying or screaming. You release the tension in your brain.
I have an actual tiny trashcan on my desk that holds my trashcan thoughts for the day. It feels like magic when my brain let’s go of whatever I’m willing to identify and write down. The real magic is you leading your brain instead of being at it’s mercy. You effectively teach it what to ignore (release) and what to focus on (embrace).
Are there reasons to be cynical this time of year? Yes.
Are those your only choice? No.
What price are you paying for staying stuck in cynicism and negativity? JOY!
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Merry Christmas my Beauties! I’m looking forward to seeing the sparkly-eyed pictures of you immersed in the joy of family and friends.
I love you my Voluptuous Beauties!