Hello, Beauties! Today’s blog is all about inspiration and invitation. The invitation is to eavesdrop on yourself over the next few days. How many times a day, a week, do you think you say the words:
It is an insidious phrase peppered throughout everyday conversations. Have you been wanting the same exact thing (for example, weight loss) for years without any progress? Does saying “I want…” inspire you or bring you pain?
Your answer to that question gives you a glimpse into how you see the world. That’s important because your world view directly affects every decision you make. Two little words that can change your world this week. The inspiration I hope you find is to give to yourself, move “I want” to “I have”.
Yes, I want is connected to the unwanted weight on your body. Notice yourself over the next few days and see what things come after I want. For example:
…to lose weight.
…to make more money.
…to be loved.
Big ticket items like these sometimes feel just outside your grasp. So, “I want…” gets said with a wistful tone. It reminds me of a deep sigh of frustration. Or worse, with a splash of resentment for continuously failing to achieve. Resentment eventually morphs into resignation producing thoughts like:
Those things are for other people.
I’ve tried everything and nothing works.
I’m such a loser.
Remember, your thoughts, especially the automatic ones like these, determine what action you take or avoid. It’s the reason you keep going in the same circles with weight loss, love relationships, and money.
The Good News is “I want…” can be your stepping stone to breaking out of those old tired circles. Let’s take “I want…” one step deeper. Think about smaller things you use to complete the phrase.
…to sleep better.
…to just relax.
…to be more social.
On some level, you believe these smaller things are also unattainable. These three, in particular, are often spoken by people who feel overwhelmed; like there is never enough time. In an already overtaxed schedule, they see no way to spend more time sleeping. Forget relaxing, the “to do” list negates down time. And being social, i.e. investing in other people, requires energy already in short supply.
These things stay in the “I want…” column. You speak them often while simultaneously pushing them away. Round and round you go with your brain.
What if it’s possible to have your “I wants”?
How would you start? Here are your baby steps for this week. Start by counting how many times a day you say the words “I want…”. No judging yourself when that number is higher than you imagined. Now pick ONE of the things you want and strategize how to get it for yourself.
For example, the want I claimed for myself last week was:
I want to read more.
The steps I took were:
- Going to the library to get the newest Grisham book I’ve been eyeing
- Placing it next to my recliner downstairs
- Putting my reading glasses next to the book
- Putting a post it note reminder next to the TV remote that says “Would you like to read instead?”
The payoff for giving yourself the things you want is eating less out of boredom and resentment. The 15 minutes that I read instead of watch TV, I could care less about food. Less crap food means less weight on my body. You become skilled at moving yourself from failure to success.
Dieting was never your answer. It does not fully address the reasons you use food the way you do. Knowing that you are important enough to have the things you want is one of the beginning steps to caring for yourself. You are worthy. You are enough. You are meant to dream and reach for new things.
If your dream is permanent, sustainable weight loss, I have magnificent tools like this one to teach you. If you are willing to use your voice to articulate the solution you want, you are ready for this work.
I’ve got several spots available right now. Let’s jump on the phone and start formulating your plan. The call is FREE. It lasts 30 minutes and you will leave with clarity about how to FINALLY reach your healthy weight. You are so ready for this work. Every time you’ve ever lost, gained, lost again, given up, lost focus, restarted has perfectly positioned you for this leg of the journey. I am so looking forward to meeting you.
Love you my Voluptuous Beauties!
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