Hello, Beauties! The joyful results of deciding to be patient with yourself. You may be thinking that’s a mismatch. That joy and being patient don’t go together. More like patience and anxiety or joy and expediency. But one of the lessons I’ve learned during my convalescence from knee replacement is that patience reveals joy I could never experience when I was in a driven hurry.
The joyful results of deciding to be patient with yourself
Patience is an idea you play with but seldom experience. It sounds “good” but you have things to do. How could stillness be worth more than doing?
Except, it is the way of nature to be patient. It is implied in being human. Pregnancy takes 9 months. Planting flowers or vegetables takes several months to result in plants. Caterpillars take 2-4 weeks to turn into beautiful butterflies.
Consider the end result of these forced periods of patience. There are no shortcuts. In fact, shortening the waiting period is often dangerous. A baby born at 32 weeks instead of 40 weeks may spend weeks in the hospital and have lifelong challenges.
Nature is a great teacher of the value of being patient. The reality is patience is required. Resisting it,fighting it does not make it happen faster, it just results in sabotage.
You know it happens but do you know that it does not have to be your reality. Sabotage is a by-product of deprivation and/or fear of success. Let’s dissect these:
Deprivation: In an effort to lose weight, you remove the coping foods that let you not feel emotion
- Making any food “off limits” only makes it more alluring
- Extreme limitation isolates you socially as you avoid gatherings where those items might be present
- Eating emotions rather than feeling them is not your best or highest skill
Fear of Success: Success is sometimes scarier than the failure you have become numb to experiencing
- Certainty is one of the highest goals of humans, even if certainty means repeated failure
- Success means no more hiding after a lifetime of being invisible in plain sight
- Success challenges the way you have defined yourself in the world and removes all the “trying” that has kept you so busy for years.
So, how do you embrace patience?
Lean into it?
Invite it into your world?
And what is the payoff?
Leaning into patience requires you being a peace with reality. Have to be in bed for 6 weeks to recover from surgery? How can you lean in and make that a yummy experience? Have you weaned yourself off fast food and are eating whole foods you prepare for yourself while the scale stays stuck at the same old weight? Can you release thoughts about failure based on past experience?
TBH, I truly thought I would be completely healed; ready to go back to work two weeks after major surgery. The reality turned out to be six weeks. I could not force my body to heal faster. It was in control and I was challenged to develop patience.
My biggest reward for that patience is joy. I gave to myself the way I would have given to my kids or to Ken. You would never rush the healing of someone you love AND I CHOOSE not to rush mine. I honored my body and what it needed to regain wholeness.
Shorts have become my favorite choice of clothing so that I can show off my beautiful surgical scar. My body, this body that still has plenty of weight to lose, healed beautifully. It is a talisman of the courage I employed to have the surgery and to walk thru the patient journey of healing.
Where do you have an opportunity to experience joy by being patient with yourself? Are you taking better care of yourself today than you did this same time last year?
When you take great care of yourself, the weight will eventually change. Patience is one of the magic components of losing weight and NEVER gaining it back.
If you are both intrigued and skeptical, AWESOME! Let’s get together and share a phone call. Your highest calling is to take amazing care of your beautiful body. I am ecstatic to show you HOW!
and put “Teach me to be patient with myself!” in the Subject line.
That will connect us and save your spot for your free 30-minute session with me. I’ll show you how learning to be patient with yourself is the glue to losing weight without deprivation.
I love you my Voluptuous Beauties!
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