Hello, Beauties! See what blooms when you stop burying anger. It makes me giggle reading that sentence. I can vividly see one of my friends dogs digging in the sand underneath my chair to retrieve one of his treasures. Burying anger is one of my oldest habits. Don’t let anyone see that you are mad! Guess what happens as I bury it? I eat crap. See yourself in this description? Then this blog is especially for you.
See what blooms when you stop burying anger
I experienced a lightning bolt of anger this last week that was so strong it was impossible to bury. Double scary because now I was just going to have to walk thru it.
My historical response to anger is eating to bury it. I have a long history of people pleasing and sacrificing my peace for outside validation. Beautifully, I know that my past does not need to be my future.
In this instance, I knew I was going to just have to give myself permission to FEEL ANGRY!
Feeling any emotion – negative ones especially – is NOT a character flaw.
It is human!
I’m proud to report that I did a few things right.
I immediately reached out to my trusted web of strong women. Let me rave for a minute about this wonderfulness. It is a space where I can be raw, unchecked and loved unconditionally. I didn’t need to explain the details of the event causing the emotion, I just had to ask them to hold space for me.
I DID NOT EAT!
If you’ve struggled with emotional eating for any amount of time, you know that is huge. One of the women in my circle gave me a total gem of wisdom. She said:
“It is just such a lie that you don’t know how to do emotions.”
She saw me and refused to let me be stuck in the same old story I’ve used to cope for years.
I do know how to feel angry. It did not involve being nasty to anyone I love or to myself. All I needed to do was just feel it until it passed.
Here’s the gift I want to share with you:
Anger is a valid human emotion.
Give yourself permission to feel it.
You can feel it without it ruining the rest of your day.
The magic is in what you make the anger mean.
If I hadn’t reached out for help, I would have made that anger mean that I had been betrayed by someone I love. Logically, I know that could never happen. But in the presence of sharp emotion, my brain was offering me that as proof.
Learning to feel emotion without eating to push it away means YOU can bloom!
What would that look like if you were freed from historical reactions and habits?
How would your days be different if you knew how to feel instead of bury?
I can’t wait to watch you make that transformation. It’s the tools I teach my private clients.
Feeling all emotions is a learned skill no one ever told you to learn.
You start by plugging into your body and naming the emotion that is present at any given moment.
Your body is already all in on this partnership.
It is working for you every day just waiting for you to join.
I’ve put together 6 Tangible Reasons You can Trust the Body in the Mirror. You can get your copy here.
I love you my Voluptuous Beauties!