Remember having your mom sign a permission slip so that you could go on the end of year field trip! THE most important piece of paper all year. If you forgot it or lost it, you had to stay behind and miss the trip. It was important to you. You hounded your mom until her signature was on the paper and it was safely returned to the teacher. Maybe you’re the mom now and its you signing the permission slips. What if you could give yourself a permission slip for that “thing” you keep trying to get for yourself?
I love this idea. It came from a Brene Brown program I’m working right now. One of the assignments is to write myself a permission slip for something that is going to take courage and vulnerability to achieve. I signed up for this bit of learning because I know that I am at another growing place and I’m ready to invest in myself at a deeper level. I’m ready to pick up the next set of habits that support my body letting go of this excess weight. I now know the WHY of how I gained this weight. A recurring theme in my journey is running (hiding) from uncertainty. I am a recovering people pleaser and perfectionist. When things get uncomfortable, I eat. The funny thing about getting to know myself is that once I know something I cannot UNknow it. I must take action. It makes me feel squirmy. I procrastinate. I overanalyze it. I try reverting to old habits but eventually I must take action. I’m at that place and so I did the assignment. Here is a picture of MY permission slip that has been sitting on my desk this week.
I give MYSELF permission to be uncomfortable AND do ABSOLUTELY nothing to relieve the feeling! Instead of shortcutting the feeling with food or distraction, I am choosing ON PURPOSE to stand still. This is what I know for sure about emotion. It dissipates! The life span of any emotion is 90 seconds – that’s it. I can hear you saying “YEAH, But…….” because you have experienced emotions that seem to go on for hours, days or years. But it’s a mind trick. The reason emotions appear to last so long is because of our thoughts. We renew the 90 second physical electrical impulse in our brain over and over. When I tell the “story” of being uncomfortable, I renew the 90 second clock. SO……….
What if I just FELT the emotion and was brave enough to see what is on the other side? Opportunities to practice have presented themselves this week. My intuition is that the opportunities have appeared before and I have declined the invitation. But for this week, I have a permission slip to just feel uncomfortable. The bonus for giving yourself permission is PRIDE and POWER. Yes, I’ve been uncomfortable. No I had no idea how the situation(s) would resolve themselves. But I lived thru it and I did NOT eat! I did NOT hide!
So let’s get you onboard. What do you need your own permission to do? Where will you embrace courage and vulnerability? Got an idea but not sure how to implement your plan? Let’s get together for a short conversation and I’ll show you THE HOW (step by step) of this wonderful adventure.
Love You My Voluptuous Beauties! Mean It!
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