Hello, Beauties! I can almost hear my kids when they were little. “Promise mama?” I was always careful NOT to promise unless I was sure I could deliver. They were pro’s at holding me to my word. My credibility was all intertwined with
The most valuable promises you make are the ones you make to yourself. They can also be the most dangerous when you procrastinate or give up. Do you keep your promises to yourself?
The answer to that is important.
Keeping your promises builds trust. Trusting yourself leads to accountability, responsibility, and non-judgment. When you trust yourself, you dream and reach for new experiences.
Breaking promises causes you to stagnate. You become unreliable. As a result, you wander away from yourself. You still make promises to yourself but you also stop listening or expecting yourself to deliver.
Think about what happens when a toddler wanders away from you. Your thoughts go wild with all the ways they can unknowingly hurt themselves. The rest of the world stops and you become laser-focused on finding them.
Wandering away from yourself happens so subtly that you might not even be aware of it until you start experiencing side effects like weight gain or fatigue.
Broken promises can act as an early warning system – an Amber alert -that you are drifting.
The 3 things humans lie to themselves about most often are food, weight, and exercise. The planning and promising feels so good. You believe you will execute. But then life gets in the way.
You TALK about losing weight but take very little action. Again, it’s human.
Here’s the dangerous part of broken promises. You begin to label yourself a failure, broken, lazy and broken. Those labels cause you to go in big frustrating circles losing, gaining, quitting, restarting. Rinse, Repeat for years.
So, here are the rules for making promises that will keep you connected to yourself and make wandering away happen less frequently.
- Only make promises you KNOW you can keep. At first it will feel weird to stop yourself from promising, BUT it sets you up to succeed.
- When you make a promise and then realize you shouldn’t have, cop to it. Honesty gets you bonus points. You maintain your accountability and reliability cards.
- Call bullshit on yourself when those habitual promises surface. You know the ones. “I’ll start dieting on Monday.” “I’m going to watch less TV.” “No more chips, ever!”
Calling bullshit on yourself does not mean you are giving up on making those changes. It means you get to stay in integrity with what you know about yourself. When you’re not ready, you’re not ready. Again, not a character flaw. It’s human.
How would your weight journey be different if you only made promises you kept? Your words are important. They create your emotions. Your emotions drive your actions. It’s the equivalent of giving yourself a head start on your goals.
What promise are you ready to make to yourself? Pick ONE. Use your laser focus to give yourself the gift of showing up 100% in. That’s where permanent sustainable change happens.
What if you lost the weight and never had to worry about gaining it back? That’s my idea of paradise. It all starts with ONE kept promise.
Are you ready? I’ve created an ebook to help you get started. It is designed to connect you with how you acquired the habits that are keeping you stuck and how to let them go.
You are not weak or failure. You are not broken.
Beautiful woman, you are none of those things. You are merely human.
masquerading as “Healthy Habits”
sabotaging your sincere weight loss efforts
Love you my Voluptuous Beauties!
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