Hello, Beauties! I woke up this morning smiling remembering the fun I had last night dancing with my friends! It was chair dancing – my knees are acting up – but dancing nonetheless. There is something about the mental release of dancing that is so tantalizing. Close your eyes, feel the music and as the song goes:
Free Your Mind
And the Rest will Follow!
Of course, not everyone feels that way. It was another kind of fun to watch one of our crowd drawn onto the dance floor against his will. Laughter – the friendly kind – filled the air as he disentangled himself and reclaimed his seat.
This quirky group of friends gathered to support a local business who supports live music here on the island. Many of our friends are musicians. One of them performed with her amazing cello for this fiesta of joy. She enticed us to dance, sing along, and share easy laughter to a wide variety of genres including March of the Storm Troopers from Star Wars, a little Fleetwood Mac, Vivaldi and of course her original songs.
Imagine this being played by ONE person onstage in a very intimate setting. This qualifies as the definition of joy.
Laughter, song, and dance are not frivolous indulgences. They create a conduit to connection – to yourself and to others. One of my favorite authors, Brene Brown, dedicates an entire chapter to this in her book The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of who you think you are supposed to be. If you haven’t read it, I highly recommend it. Chapter 10 is entitled
Laughter, Song, Dance: Letting Go of Being in Control
Letting go of control stops many of you from letting yourself have this version of joy. You fear someone is watching you and judging. You believe “you aren’t good at it”. You’d rather watch from the sidelines – be a wallflower – than expose yourself to criticism. At the same time, you feel the music drawing you towards it. Maybe you hum to yourself or chair dance like me and secretly wish you had the guts to just turn yourself loose.
I invite you to consider that there is no “wrong” way to laugh, sing, or dance. They allow you to express feelings you might not even be able to name. To reset yourself to center. In Brene’s words, “laughter, song, and dance create an emotional and spiritual connection; they remind us of the one thing that truly matters when we are all searching for comfort, celebration, inspiration, or healing: We are not alone” (Brown, 2010, p 118).
- Releasing your joy as a spiritual form of communing
- Laughing embodies the relief and connection you experience when you realize the power of sharing your stories. (“I get you.)
- Injecting you with emotion
- Provoking memories
- Connecting you to other people you don’t even know
- Gifting yourself permission to be free
- Unleashing your passion
- Literally full body vulnerability
- A close equivalent to standing naked; exposed
- Dancing feeds your heart and soul
What if you decided NOT to be a wallflower? What if you gave yourself the gift of song, dance, and laughter done imperfectly? Practice it at home. Dance in your living room. Sing in the shower. Feel yourself connect to that deep inner part of yourself.
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P.S. Here is a link to Vivaldi’s Concerto for two cellos in g minor in case you are not familiar with the music. The YouTube video shows two cellist. Jen’s technique allows her to play it ALONE. It was magic!
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She is magnificent! And it brings me great joy to share her with you! I’ll tell her you said “Hi!” next time I see her play.
You are so ready for this work. Paradoxically, every time you’ve ever lost, gained, lost again, given up, lost focus, restarted has perfectly positioned you for this leg of the journey. I am so looking forward to meeting you.
Love you my Voluptuous Beauties!
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