Hello, Beauties! I’ve gotten an upclose look at How to Feel: Bittersweet this week. It’s been a roller coaster ride named Harvey and it’s not over yet. Bittersweet describes it best: simultaneously pleasant and painful. There are no shortcuts thru feeling especially when the adrenaline runs this high. So how do you feel pleasure and pain at the same time?
How do you feel: Bittersweet?
I am so grateful the island I love and people I love weren’t directly affected. That’s the sweet part. However, this tricky storm dealt some bitter cards; ones I couldn’t have anticipated but must find a way to process.
Sobering event #1
Rounding the corner and seeing your neighbor boarding up his windows with plywood.
Sobering event #2
Getting a public notice that the three-mile bridge to the island will be closing.
Sobering event #3
Seeing the place where all your vacation memories were made decimated.
If you’ve been watching the news, you may have heard of Port Aransas, Tx. Video of the town posted yesterday breaks my heart. All of those landmark places no longer exist.
I hadn’t considered losing the place where so many of my stories occurred. They exist only in pictures. Pictures of my kids buried in the sand. The Shark store where the kids stand in the Sharks mouth and have their picture taken.
Things here are going to just be awkward for a bit. As a new normal forms, allowing all this emotion to bubble to the top and be felt is key to healing.
It feels selfish to feel the bitter part because the people who live there lost everything. My inclination is to shove those emotions away but again, there is no shortcut thru emotion.
I feel the body fatigue of having this soup of emotion move thru me. Think of the images you’ve seen the last few days of people standing in moving water. The water has the power to take them off balance and sweep them away.
Your emotions have that same power. Not feeling them results in using coping tools that add weight to your body. Most people experience them in one of two ways:
- They avoid them altogether – eat, drink, shop, gamble, sleep, etc to NOT feel
- Get swept away into drama – eat, drink, shop, gamble, sleep, etc to NOT feel
In another odd twist, close friends had to be rescued by boat in Houston. Their lives are forever changed. We sit in our unscathed paradise on a sunshiny day thankful to have only experienced a fire drill and at the same time bitter at the irony of the storms change of direction putting people we love in jeopardy.
Tenacity, determination, and perseverance. Three qualities Texans pride themselves on. The display of generosity and connectedness is amazing to watch.
My invitation to you – honor whatever emotion shows up in your body. It is not selfish and does not negate all the other available emotion swamping this part of the world.
Learning how to feel emotions instead of eating emotions is one of the tools I am teaching in real time in my private FaceBook group. I’d love to have you join the bigger conversation that is happening there.
You are so ready for this work. Every time you’ve ever lost, gained, lost again, given up, lost focus, restarted has perfectly positioned you for this leg of the journey. I am so looking forward to meeting you.
Love you my Voluptuous Beauties!
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