Hello Beautiful! How do you love yourself when you really don’t? I get it. It’s one of the reasons I love coaching so much. Change one thought and life improves. Very different from mantras and affirmations; they always felt like busy work. You cannot coerce yourself into believing something you have no proof to support.
How do you love yourself when you really don’t?
Be honest. Creating a list of all the reasons you don’t love yourself would be relatively easy. Tally up all the times you cheated on a diet or said no to an invitation because your clothes were all too tight. Acknowledge the reason you take the picture at social events is so you don’t have to be in the picture.
To be even more honest, you believe loving yourself comes AFTER weight loss and you’re not there yet. But, believing you must lose weight to be lovable backfires.
Love gets delayed sometimes for years! In it’s place, all in the name of losing weight, you coerce yourself into traditional diets that focus only on action and results.
For example: my mom ate NO solid foods for almost a year when I got engaged. She lost 100 lbs before my wedding, but she didn’t instantly fall in love with herself. Now I know how hard that must have been AND that her thoughts didn’t change at all resulting in the weight coming back.
I’ll bet you have your own version of that story that convinces you just how unlovable you are today, at this weight.
Why would you love yourself now with all this extra weight? (aka FAT):
(I am on a mission to destigmatize those three little letters!)
Is it even possible to sincerely love yourself and be FAT?
Now you may not know how. But that does not make it impossible.
Start by tuning in and listening to your self-talk; those things you say to yourself that no one knows about.
- How often do you talk trash about yourself to yourself?
- How offended would you be if someone else talked to you that way
? Wouldyou ever say those things to another woman?
Here’s my challenge for you.
Make a list of how your life would change if you were able to shift to loving yourself EXACTLY the way you are today.
What else would get better in your life if this was a non-issue?
I created a worksheet to help you get started:
Until you learn to love yourself, I’m right here reminding you how beautiful and worthy you are; right now; at this weight.
I love you my Voluptuous Beauty!