Hello, Beauties! Yesterday I lost one of my best earrings or I thought I did. My brain, already on edge from an adrenaline filled day, flooded me with judgment! CRAP! And I lost my best earring? I heard it in slow motion:
C R A P !
I LOST MY BEST EARRING????
(insert silent scream of frustration here)
My BEST earrings?
NOT the hundreds of costume earrings that I own.
And it’s only the second time I’d worn them!
Why am I telling you about a lost earring?
Because it is such a good example of how your brain connects your thoughts and creates a story. The story my brain made up yesterday when I realized I’d been walking around for some amount of time with only one earring was “failure”!
Your brain is not defective, it is functioning as designed. Brains love patterns and efficiency. Whatever happens in your day, your brain looks for connections to things it knows about you.
Above all, it’s primary purpose is to keep you safe.
BUT . . .
It does not care about accuracy when filling in the details. It only cares about keeping you safe.
Losing an expensive earring yesterday set off a domino effect in my brain. My brain started ticking off every other thing that “went wrong” yesterday – and there were some real things that went wrong – and the lost earring was the straw that broke the camel’s back.
This is where emotions drive eating.
What meaning do you put on a trying day?
Remember, your brain loves patterns. One of my oldest patterns is “victim”.
My version is:
I do everything right and I still get screwed!
THE GOOD NEWS:
You are not stuck with the emotions your brain offers based on historical patterns.
I don’t know if “victim” will ever stop showing up in my thoughts but I do know that it is only a thought.
Here’s the punch line. When I climbed the stairs and starting shutting the house down, I saw the “lost” earring sitting on my desk. I’d never put it on.
The hilarious part is: I walked around ALL day with only one earring.
The Pride Part is: I did not binge eat because of a thought!
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Love you my Voluptuous Beauties!
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