Hello, Beauties. I experienced an interesting session with my mindset coach kast weej that I want to share with you. (Yes! Coaches also have coaches). My current growth path started back in May 2014 as a search for a solid answer to losing this weight PERMANENTLY. That search led to this magnificent work I get to share with the world and the birthing of my business. Along the way, I’ve become an expert lever feeler: I am willing to feel any and every emotion. As a result, I’ve learned to trust my intuition. I came to this conversation with questions about money. I know there is room to challenge the stories I believe about money. Sara (my coach) prompted me to share “my money stories”. They sounded something like this:
My family never had a lot of money.
I know how to be poor; I’m not sure how to be wealthy.
I’ve never earned more than $xx,xxx in any given year.
I am aware that by believing old stories I have about money, I am blocking it from coming to me. One of the stories I shared was about a cluster of years in my 20’s when I was very ambitious and making “good money”. Sara asked me for more details and watched me (this was a video call) visibly flinch. For a coach, that kind of reaction is gold; a sure sign you’ve found some unfelt emotions.
My end of the conversation went something like “I don’t like that version of myself.” “She has nothing to do with who I am today.” “I’ve worked hard to leave her behind.” “She was weak and a doormat.” “She had no self-respect.” I can feel my stomach clench as I type the words.
Sara’s response turned out to be the next pivot I need as I grow myself up. Her words were very powerful. She said, “You cannot kill her.” “She is part of you.” “The answers to your money questions involve integrating all the pieces of yourself.” Sara calls this integration – pulling all of the versions of yourself together in one place and
CHOOSING to love, accept and embrace all of me.
Going one step deeper, she suggested “What if it’s possible that 20-year-old version of you was NOT weak? What if she was strong and knew when to keep quiet in order to keep you safe? What if her strength is the reason you survived?” I have never entertained the idea that I was strong during that season of life. Sara’s words rang so true to me. They are resulting in my next layer of healing.
I am looking at my younger self with kinder eyes over the last few days, inviting her forward to build this business with me. Sara’s last question was “What gifts does that version of you possess? What does she like to do?” That girl knows how to talk to complete strangers and build a connection. That girl loved being in the center of the room. That girl wanted to learn spanish and play the piano. I can see shades of her in this 51 yr old version of me.
I tell you this long story to get to this point. You have more voices than you are aware of standing ready to be your partner as you learn the skills to achieve your natural weight and live there effortlessly. Are you tuned into all the voices you possess? How many can you say YES to hearing on a daily basis?
Your real-time voice that is willing to ask for what you need.
Your body whispers – sensations you get from your body that precedes both potential danger and joy. Ex: goosebumps, lump in your throat
Your intuition – that sixth sense that defy’s logic (Most of us have been actually taught to discount or flat out ignore this one.)
Your wisdom – comes from former versions of yourself that have learned from both failures and successes
Your dreams – enticing voice encouraging you to reach for things just outside your grasp (Again, most of us have been taught to avoid pain by turning this voice off)
Using your voice is a learned skill. Where will your voices take you? I know exactly where I want my voices to take me. My highest goal is to change the societal conversation about weight – to take the shame out of having a large body. Being fat is not a character defect, it is a coping mechanism for emotions you don’t know how to feel – so you eat. Weight is your body’s last ditch effort to get your attention. It cannot be ignored.
That goal is driven by my dreams voice. I am willing to feel (remember I am an expert level feeler) the awkwardness, the doubt, the fear and the thrill of creating this legacy. My integrated self will accomplish this by sharing the tools I learn, develop and teach to other women. No matter how much weight you have to lose, it’s never about the food. It is always about emotions unfelt.
The beginner’s set of tools can be found in my signature program UnPack Your Emotional Baggage – Take Weight Loss Off Your “TO DO” List – FOREVER!
And it’s on sale until midnight March 31st to celebrate my recent road trip. All of the details can be found by clicking on the red box. I’d love to show you how to start your own integration and start hearing all 5 of your voices.
Love you my Voluptuous Beauties!
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