Hello, Beauties! Birthdays remind you to be grateful for your growth. Last Saturday I turned a glowing 53. The glowing part is important because the last few birthdays, I have crashed – meaning old stories packed with unfelt emotion have showed up uninvited. But this year, I’m embracing gratitude for all the growth that has happened this year.
Birthdays remind you to be grateful for your growth
Last year I did a nose dive for my birthday. Thank goodness I have my own coach who helped me unravel the tangle my brain was offering. She may not have known it that day but she provided a turning point for me that allowed me to grow for the next twelve months.
I was in a full pity party over my history. I don’t share all of that here so I’ll give you the cliff notes version.
I was raised in a restrictive closed religious community. I left at 27 which resulted in being shunned by my entire social community. I was newly divorced, single parent to a 5 year old and an infant. Everyone I knew, everyone who knew me, stopped talking to me. Including my parents!
In hindsight, I had no idea how to feel all of that emotion.
I now know that the extra 150 lbs on my body for 25 years
is directly related to eating rather than feeling those emotions.
No Judgment, just fact.
Fast forward 25 years, I still hit that wall every birthday. So much has been discovered about the devastating effects of shunning in the years since then. The overarching thought that always derailed me was: If your mom doesn’t love you, how could anyone else? BTW, she always loved me, I just didn’t know it.
Thank goodness coaches also hire coaches. It is almost impossible to see your own stuff.
My coach listened to me as I literally melted down in front of her. Then beautifully, she reminded me of a real scar on my body from a brown recluse spider.
I love that scar.
I do not hate the spider.
She invited me to see that I have a reciprocal internal scar from my religious history. That internal scar was just as beautiful as the spider scar on the outside.
Here is the power of thought. Because I love and value the external scar, I can choose to believe the same thing about the internal scar. I did not need to hate the people who caused the scar anymore than I hated the spider who caused the external scar.
That forever changed my birthday experience. I didn’t need to hate where I came from or judge my mother or anyone else for shunning me, for “not loving me”. I could choose to love the life I’ve created and be empathetic to the people I loved who believe shunning is an act of love.
YOUR TAKEAWAY: Looking forward is way more fun than looking backwards.
BONUS TAKEAWAY: You are NOT the same person you were one year ago. You’ve grown!
Choosing a different meaning for birthdays moves you closer to falling head over heels in love with your beautiful body, it no longer needs the weight you are carrying.
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I love you my Voluptuous Beauties!