My name is Melinda Sohns. I turned a vibrant 50 years old this year. The vibrant part is important because it is the reason I created this site. My business, Turning Yourself Inside Out Coaching, exists as a result of my search for answers to living an authentic life at my natural weight. I set out to literally turn myself inside out. Imagine that in your mind: turning yourself inside out. I would be vulnerable and exposed but I would also be able to achieve two goals. First, I knew that inside me lived the 120 pound, 19-year-old beauty even though that was not the image that showed in the mirror. I wanted that version to be what I showed to the world – to finally make my outside match my inside. Second, by opening up, I would deal with the “life garbage” that I had accumulated over 50 years of living.
I grew up in a family of overweight women. The topic of weight loss was the center of their conversations. They put life on hold UNTIL they were thinner. These are the women that shaped my ideas about body image. I began to put on weight in my late twenties. Over the next 25 years, I lost 100+ pounds twice and gained it all back. I managed to avoid some of the pitfalls I’d seen my mother and aunts experience. I did not hate my body but I also did not love it. I embraced my size 28 body and lived. But I also hid, after all, FAT = INVISIBLE in this culture. Invisible felt safe but it also felt dead. My kids were grown and I had a choice to make about how I would live the next 30 years.
Vibrant and invisible cannot coexist. My desire for vibrancy won. I embraced courage and tenacity. I decided to direct my time and money towards more than just weight loss. My body was begging for my undivided attention. I set out to find the owner’s manual for MY body. I wanted to know HOW it worked. I wanted to have a master level understanding of how my emotions and thinking intertwined with the needs of my physical body. No more coercion and deprivation. No more white knuckling. I accomplished that by adding the two missing ingredients in all other diet plans. I rediscovered JOY and I got to know myself. You don’t need a better diet or more willpower. The solution is so much simpler and so much more powerful.
So you’re here, reading my story. Weight is our body’s most effective tool for getting our attention. Hiring a coach to teach you new weight loss tools allows you to tune into the messages your body is already sending. Why am I the coach for you? Because I AM YOU!
I’ve experienced the discrimination,
the seat belts that don’t fit,
sitting on the sidelines watching because you can’t keep up,
being dismissed and invisible because you are FAT.
I had magnificent teachers and would love to be your guide as you meet yourself for real for the first time. Everything we do, especially related to weight loss, starts as a thought. As your coach, I will help you identify those thoughts you may have never spoken out loud to another person. I have shamed and guilted and coerced myself. I know where the land mines are that cause you to lose focus. Together we will create a safe place to practice raw honesty. You will experience community rather than discrimination. You will learn how to love the body you have this moment and use that powerful emotion to reach your healthy weight.
I love working with people like you because you are still looking for your answers. Your willingness to be open and determination to remain hopeful make you perfectly suited for this work. I work with highly successful morbidly obese women. I teach them WHY they eat when they are not hungry AND HOW TO STOP! I will meet you via telephone or Skype once a week. Included in your contract is the ability to have a second phone call if you are having a particularly challenging week. Additionally, you will enjoy unlimited email and social media access to me. I AM YOUR PERSON. When we come together, we create your private space to take my hand, open the doors to your brain and discover YOUR answers. I limit the number of clients I accept in order to provide this level of access and flexibility. This is a very personalized journey. It cannot be rushed but the results are solid. I schedule in two-hour blocks. Some weeks we will talk for an hour, some weeks more, some weeks less. Most conversations come to a natural end on their own. We will not be clock watchers. I am so excited to see your AH-HA moments as we work together.
I am excited to know more about you and take you along on this journey!